Domestic Violence

Family/Domestic Violence

Your home, your family, and your close relationships should feel safe and rewarding, and be free from violence or trauma. If you, your children, or any family member are being mistreated by a spouse, partner, another family member or person, contact the crisis line at 800.888.6161, or call Safe Harbor/Genesis House at 440.244.1853 (Lorain), 440.323.3400 (Elyria), or 866.213.1188 (toll free), or visit

Know the signs:

The person is jealous of everyone in your life, and often accuses you of cheating.

Controlling Behavior
They control with whom you spend your time, what your wear, where you go.

Quick Involvement
They rush the relationship along quickly, pressuring you to commit.

Unrealistic Expectations
They expect you to be perfect and the kids to be perfect.

They try to remove everyone from your life: your friends, family and co-workers.

Blames Others for Their Problems
It’s always someone else’s fault, never their fault.

Blames Others For Their Feelings
You “made them” mad or you “made them” jealous.

They take the smallest thing as a horrible insult and get furious about it.

Cruelty to Animals or Children
They are mean to pets or tease animals or children.

“Playful” Use of Force in Sex
Any use of force during sex is not OK and is a crime of violence.

Verbal Abuse
They call you names and say things to hurt your feelings.

Rigid Sex Roles
They expect women to serve men and see women as lesser than men.

Dr. Jekyl & Mr. Hyde
They switch from a nice person to horribly mean very quickly.

Past Battering
If someone has been abusive to past partners, they will be abusive to you.

Threats of Violence
Any threats should be taken seriously.

Breaking or Striking Objects
Punching walls and throwing things is a sign of what will come.

Any Use of Force During an Argument
They may hold you down or not let you leave.

Learn More About Violence in Families

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) developed this series, drawing on the experiences of domestic violence survivors, research findings and reports from domestic violence program advocates and mental health professionals.

How Does Domestic Violence Affect Children?

Celebrating Your Child’s Strengths

Before You Talk to Your Children: How Your Feelings Matter

Listening and Talking to Your Children About Domestic Violence

The Importance of Playing with Your Children

Keeping Your Children Safe and Responding to Their Fears

Managing Challenging Behavior of Children Living with Domestic Violence

Where to Turn if You Are Worried About Your Children

Helping Your Child Navigate a Relationship the Abusive Parent


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